Comments on: Done?/Mourning http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/ Adventures in queer transracial adoptive parenting and other mundane things Sun, 07 Sep 2008 02:30:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU hourly 1 By: Arguffged http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-8852 Arguffged Thu, 27 Mar 2008 08:13:21 +0000 http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-8852 Beautiful teen girls www.porntubebestmovies3.tk Beautiful teen girls
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]]> By: AussieJenn http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-409 AussieJenn Mon, 20 Nov 2006 04:48:01 +0000 http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-409 That is really sad. I remember that day in my life too....I cried (I felt rejected), but it didn't change the closeness I felt to my son, and his health didn't decline either! Good luck, although I'm a bit late in my reply so you've probably already moved on... That is really sad.
I remember that day in my life too….I cried (I felt rejected), but it didn’t change the closeness I felt to my son, and his health didn’t decline either! Good luck, although I’m a bit late in my reply so you’ve probably already moved on…

]]> By: Hope http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-357 Hope Mon, 13 Nov 2006 16:04:42 +0000 http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-357 I have the pump and take all the pills, too. I know how hard it is. I'm sorry for your sadness and understand where you are coming from. Hopefully you can both make peace with the weaning. I have the pump and take all the pills, too. I know how hard it is. I’m sorry for your sadness and understand where you are coming from. Hopefully you can both make peace with the weaning.

]]> By: FosterMommy http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-320 FosterMommy Thu, 09 Nov 2006 17:03:01 +0000 http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-320 Definitely don't stress about it. But remember, babies change their needs/whims every few days! Maybe once he's over this illness, he'll be receptive to latching on again. Don't count on it, if that would break your heart even more, but don't rule it out. So many people *start* b'feeding their adopted babies at 3, 6, 12 months...just because he's been doing it since the start and he doesn't want to now, doesn't mean he won't enjoy it later. Not that you want to keep pumping and dom'ing or whatever just for that possibility...but offer it to him as a pacifier and possible snack in the future, if you feel comfortable doing that. Whatever happens, you've done a wonderful thing for him by breastfeeding him this long. Definitely don’t stress about it. But remember, babies change their needs/whims every few days! Maybe once he’s over this illness, he’ll be receptive to latching on again.
Don’t count on it, if that would break your heart even more, but don’t rule it out. So many people *start* b’feeding their adopted babies at 3, 6, 12 months…just because he’s been doing it since the start and he doesn’t want to now, doesn’t mean he won’t enjoy it later.

Not that you want to keep pumping and dom’ing or whatever just for that possibility…but offer it to him as a pacifier and possible snack in the future, if you feel comfortable doing that.

Whatever happens, you’ve done a wonderful thing for him by breastfeeding him this long.

]]> By: Liza http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-306 Liza Tue, 07 Nov 2006 20:37:34 +0000 http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-306 I think the picture thing is a great idea. And Roo is lucky to have had a mama who was able to do what it took to nurse him, in spite of the odds. You might also want to check out Lizzy at House of H. She went through a very hard unplanned weaning earlier this year: http://citylizzy.blogspot.com/2006/08/empty.html . Her Henry is thriving, and they obviously have a wonderful relationship now. I think the picture thing is a great idea. And Roo is lucky to have had a mama who was able to do what it took to nurse him, in spite of the odds.

You might also want to check out Lizzy at House of H. She went through a very hard unplanned weaning earlier this year: http://citylizzy.blogspot.com/2006/08/empty.html . Her Henry is thriving, and they obviously have a wonderful relationship now.

]]> By: dawnfriedman http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-305 dawnfriedman Tue, 07 Nov 2006 14:47:06 +0000 http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-305 Hugs to you -- weaning is hard. I love the idea of taking the picture and I know he'll appreciate that concrete keepsake someday, too. Hugs to you — weaning is hard. I love the idea of taking the picture and I know he’ll appreciate that concrete keepsake someday, too.

]]> By: Jenn http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-300 Jenn Mon, 06 Nov 2006 16:36:34 +0000 http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-300 Of course I have no experience with this but it must be tough. My mom nursed all of us for a long time. Like years maybe. So I can imagine the suddenness of only 3 months is shocking. But like everyone says it's OK to feel sad and you did the best you could for him. If he's done he's done I suppose. He still loves his mamas! Of course I have no experience with this but it must be tough. My mom nursed all of us for a long time. Like years maybe. So I can imagine the suddenness of only 3 months is shocking.

But like everyone says it’s OK to feel sad and you did the best you could for him. If he’s done he’s done I suppose. He still loves his mamas!

]]> By: Erin http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-289 Erin Sun, 05 Nov 2006 04:22:46 +0000 http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-289 It is sad to stop nursing. I was so lucky to get to nurse P for so long, yet it still broke my heart to stop. Don't try to let people tell you not to be sad. Take the time to grieve about it. Your lactation consultant sounds like she's giving you some sound advice. I hope he goes back to nursing. Colds can take it out of a baby in so many ways. I hope that's all it is, but if this was it, I hope that you'll always take great pride in giving him such a wonderful gift for these 3 months. It is sad to stop nursing. I was so lucky to get to nurse P for so long, yet it still broke my heart to stop. Don’t try to let people tell you not to be sad. Take the time to grieve about it. Your lactation consultant sounds like she’s giving you some sound advice. I hope he goes back to nursing. Colds can take it out of a baby in so many ways. I hope that’s all it is, but if this was it, I hope that you’ll always take great pride in giving him such a wonderful gift for these 3 months.

]]> By: Lisa V http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-286 Lisa V Fri, 03 Nov 2006 23:48:27 +0000 http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-286 I'm sorry. I’m sorry.

]]> By: Susan http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-285 Susan Fri, 03 Nov 2006 23:26:03 +0000 http://roundisfunny1.wordpress.com/2006/11/03/donemourning/#comment-285 Oh, hugs. So much to mourn! Your lactation consultant is really smart: you can, in the end, find many different ways to meet the same needs, and it's good not to get the specific practice confused with the need. But even as you find all kinds of ways to spend special time together--all kinds of snuggles and games and togetherness--it must be hard to let go of the breastfeeding. Hugs. Oh, hugs. So much to mourn!

Your lactation consultant is really smart: you can, in the end, find many different ways to meet the same needs, and it’s good not to get the specific practice confused with the need. But even as you find all kinds of ways to spend special time together–all kinds of snuggles and games and togetherness–it must be hard to let go of the breastfeeding.

Hugs.

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