You’d think this was the first time our adoption agency has done a finalization.

More than a month ago, we had our final post-placement visit, and I badgered the heck out of our awesome-but-terrible-about-paperwork social worker so that we could get our post-placement reports ASAP. All the other paperwork was done, and the placement agency reported that as soon as they got those reports they would turn everything over to our lawyer. The lawyer would file for a court date with Big Underfunded Urban County, we would wait 2-3 months for the date, and then finalize. A cumbersome process at best, but one we were prepared for.

Our lawyer requested the documents from our agency almost 4 weeks ago. They said they needed to send some of the documents to their partner agency in Crazy State, where Roo was born, and get some documents from them – the TPR and so on.

The lawyer called us last week to say she had still hear nothing from the agency. So we call them. The placement agency berates us for nagging them – we told you when we last spoke that we couldn’t do anything without the documents from Crazy State Agency – despite that it had been more than 3 weeks since we had heard anything from them. They suggested calling Crazy State Agency to put pressure on them

This morning I call Crazy State Agency and guess what happens? They berate me for nagging them (are you seeing a theme here?) and give me a different story. Our placement agency says they were waiting on paperwork from Crazy State Agency, but Crazy State Agency says they just got a request YESTERDAY from our placement agency for more paperwork.

Someone is lying to avoid admitting they made a mistake, and in the meantime we were eligible to finalize a month ago but have still not even filed the paperwork that begins the 2-3 month wait for a court date.

I know that by the time Roo is 3 we’re not even going to remember when we finalized, but this is really, really aggravating me right now. There are no legal glitches, just bureaucratic confusion, and in the meantime our son is legally our foster child.

And also, what’s up with agencies yelling at us for trying to get things moving when we’ve been in a holding pattern for a month?



7 Responses to Incompetency

  1. shirky says:

    I have a way with dealing with people who are unhelpful in these situations. It’s drastic and normal well-adjusted people who care about dignity don’t care to employ it, but it has always worked for me. I just cry on the phone and they give me what I want. It makes me feel gross but it gets done. Let me know your tricks, maybe I can stop being such a wuss.

  2. mama2roo says:

    Sorry you have to go through some seemingly inevitable rigamaroll!

    shirky, that is hilarious!!

  3. Jardini says:

    Hey if you can be a wuss and get things done, i dont see a problem with that.

  4. Liza says:

    I think you’ll remember when it was finalized. Sorry you have to go through all this miserable stuff.

    What made me feel the most insane going though legal hoop jumping hell, was the psycho sense of being grateful for the opportunity. What? But true.

  5. Clementine says:

    This pisses me off royally! I’m feeling sassy these days–let me at ’em.

  6. […] I’m feeling really frustrated about finalization. Our agency sat around with their thumbs up their butts for more than 2 months not bothering to respond to our lawyer’s request for post-placement […]

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