You’d think this was the first time our adoption agency has done a finalization.
More than a month ago, we had our final post-placement visit, and I badgered the heck out of our awesome-but-terrible-about-paperwork social worker so that we could get our post-placement reports ASAP. All the other paperwork was done, and the placement agency reported that as soon as they got those reports they would turn everything over to our lawyer. The lawyer would file for a court date with Big Underfunded Urban County, we would wait 2-3 months for the date, and then finalize. A cumbersome process at best, but one we were prepared for.
Our lawyer requested the documents from our agency almost 4 weeks ago. They said they needed to send some of the documents to their partner agency in Crazy State, where Roo was born, and get some documents from them – the TPR and so on.
The lawyer called us last week to say she had still hear nothing from the agency. So we call them. The placement agency berates us for nagging them – we told you when we last spoke that we couldn’t do anything without the documents from Crazy State Agency – despite that it had been more than 3 weeks since we had heard anything from them. They suggested calling Crazy State Agency to put pressure on them
This morning I call Crazy State Agency and guess what happens? They berate me for nagging them (are you seeing a theme here?) and give me a different story. Our placement agency says they were waiting on paperwork from Crazy State Agency, but Crazy State Agency says they just got a request YESTERDAY from our placement agency for more paperwork.
Someone is lying to avoid admitting they made a mistake, and in the meantime we were eligible to finalize a month ago but have still not even filed the paperwork that begins the 2-3 month wait for a court date.
I know that by the time Roo is 3 we’re not even going to remember when we finalized, but this is really, really aggravating me right now. There are no legal glitches, just bureaucratic confusion, and in the meantime our son is legally our foster child.
And also, what’s up with agencies yelling at us for trying to get things moving when we’ve been in a holding pattern for a month?